I am sorry to say that I have decided Blogging is not for me. I gave it a shot thinking maybe this is the way I can help some people deal with things like I have. But I just struggle putting them in writing.
I will delete this account by the end of the day.
Thank you.
Monday, February 22, 2016
Friday, February 19, 2016
Romance!? Is it overrated?
I belong to a network of groups because of my illness. One of the things I hear and see so often is "he is not romantic. Is it because my illness turns him off? I also have friends who are healthy and they often say "I don't give in until he "chases" me"!
As I reflect on those 2 comments I often wondered...what does the bible say. And don't get me wrong. I love Romance and Hallmark Channel, but some are just not built for it. My husband...he doesn't have an ounce of romance in him. Does that mean he does not care or love me. Nope! And I have had to learn and adjust to that, just as you may have to.
As I was looking in my bible these past few weeks, nowhere does it mention the word "Romance". However, there are passages about deep love. For example...Song of Solomon (pretty much the whole book), but my favorite! Genesis 29:20 "So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days." That my friends is Romance!
For me, my husband does the dishes, the laundry, helps keeping the house clean, he texts me in the morning to make sure I am up and ok for the day, he texts me on lunch, when I am on the couch not well, he will cook to the best he can, he recently took a whole day off of work because I was really not well and the doctor had me in bed all day, he has come home from work to take me to work so I don't get cold or get hurt, drawn me a hot bath and helped me up the stairs because my body is not functioning, my list could go on, and he does all this without a complaint. THAT IS ROMANCE!
Our youngest daughter stopped over on Sunday with a Valentine gift for me! I was so happy. And I loved that she thought about me! Homemade Chocolate Covered Strawberries! YUM! She brought her boyfriend and we got to talking about Valentine's Day. I don't think she was happy with me after that :) Anyways, I told her we don't celebrate Valentine's Day anymore because I don't want just that one day set out for someone to say/do something special. That should be everyday. Why spend money on a certain day, where the restaurants "inflate" their prices and card/floral/candy companies make money. Don't get me wrong I took advantage of the day to make some money for the Life2016 trip. But that is the point I am trying to make. People gain from a day set aside specifically for love/romance! And people fall to the pressure that they have to do something. Nope look at me and tell me you love me on a Wednesday, rolling out of bed with curlers in my hair and have some severe morning breath! (FYI I don't wear rollers LOL).
So for those of you who feel "romance" is lacking, stop, look, see. I bet there is romance, just not in the form that society has put it in and we have come to expect that is the way it is suppose to be.
I used to think as you do...I don't get flowers anymore, I don't get dates anymore, he don't chase me anymore, etc. If you have someone who goes out his/her way to make sure you are "LOVED" and cared for that is all that matters. Don't fall to the "commercial" or the "society" pressure. I feel that is damaging to your relationship. Is it nice once in a while. Yep, it is! But that is not "real". I get frustrated sometimes too, but then I realize that is not what love is.
Again, stop, look and be thankful for what you have.
As I reflect on those 2 comments I often wondered...what does the bible say. And don't get me wrong. I love Romance and Hallmark Channel, but some are just not built for it. My husband...he doesn't have an ounce of romance in him. Does that mean he does not care or love me. Nope! And I have had to learn and adjust to that, just as you may have to.
As I was looking in my bible these past few weeks, nowhere does it mention the word "Romance". However, there are passages about deep love. For example...Song of Solomon (pretty much the whole book), but my favorite! Genesis 29:20 "So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days." That my friends is Romance!
For me, my husband does the dishes, the laundry, helps keeping the house clean, he texts me in the morning to make sure I am up and ok for the day, he texts me on lunch, when I am on the couch not well, he will cook to the best he can, he recently took a whole day off of work because I was really not well and the doctor had me in bed all day, he has come home from work to take me to work so I don't get cold or get hurt, drawn me a hot bath and helped me up the stairs because my body is not functioning, my list could go on, and he does all this without a complaint. THAT IS ROMANCE!
Our youngest daughter stopped over on Sunday with a Valentine gift for me! I was so happy. And I loved that she thought about me! Homemade Chocolate Covered Strawberries! YUM! She brought her boyfriend and we got to talking about Valentine's Day. I don't think she was happy with me after that :) Anyways, I told her we don't celebrate Valentine's Day anymore because I don't want just that one day set out for someone to say/do something special. That should be everyday. Why spend money on a certain day, where the restaurants "inflate" their prices and card/floral/candy companies make money. Don't get me wrong I took advantage of the day to make some money for the Life2016 trip. But that is the point I am trying to make. People gain from a day set aside specifically for love/romance! And people fall to the pressure that they have to do something. Nope look at me and tell me you love me on a Wednesday, rolling out of bed with curlers in my hair and have some severe morning breath! (FYI I don't wear rollers LOL).
So for those of you who feel "romance" is lacking, stop, look, see. I bet there is romance, just not in the form that society has put it in and we have come to expect that is the way it is suppose to be.
I used to think as you do...I don't get flowers anymore, I don't get dates anymore, he don't chase me anymore, etc. If you have someone who goes out his/her way to make sure you are "LOVED" and cared for that is all that matters. Don't fall to the "commercial" or the "society" pressure. I feel that is damaging to your relationship. Is it nice once in a while. Yep, it is! But that is not "real". I get frustrated sometimes too, but then I realize that is not what love is.
Again, stop, look and be thankful for what you have.
Thursday, February 18, 2016
Just be the real You!
I have written, and rewritten this post about 30 times already. And what I want to say never really comes forward in the right way.
I get so far and then I think, oh I don't want to say that it will offend someone, or oh I don't want to say that, that is a little too personal, but you know what. So what! I named this blog "Just be the real you" for a reason! If you offended, then don't read it!
Lets start with a little about me!
Who am I? I am married with 3 children. That really does not say who I am does it?
Do I really know who I am? Nope! So I guess this is where I will learn who I am.
I had our kids at a very young age, and my Husband and I married in 1997.
As of October my Husband and I became empty nesters! I thought this time would be great! Everyone said it would be great! Nope! I find myself missing little "traditions" that we had. Curling up together watching the "Hallmark Channel" or getting excited about a certain moving coming out that we would watch as a family. Cooking for 2 is very difficult, and lonely.
I am also finding more time on my hands as structure has changed in ministry.
I don't like to be idol. It drives me bonkers!
For so long I have had our kids and ministry to keep my busy, so I guess this is a time of rediscovery of who I am without kids and ministry to keep me going. I guess it is kinda reverse for me to discover who I am and what is my purpose now. I hope you will tag along for the ride and hopefully I can share stories of where I have been and where I am now, and maybe it will help you along your journey of being real and honest with yourselves. And maybe help in your Spiritual life as well.
1 Peter 5:10
"And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen."
I get so far and then I think, oh I don't want to say that it will offend someone, or oh I don't want to say that, that is a little too personal, but you know what. So what! I named this blog "Just be the real you" for a reason! If you offended, then don't read it!
Lets start with a little about me!
Who am I? I am married with 3 children. That really does not say who I am does it?
Do I really know who I am? Nope! So I guess this is where I will learn who I am.
I had our kids at a very young age, and my Husband and I married in 1997.
As of October my Husband and I became empty nesters! I thought this time would be great! Everyone said it would be great! Nope! I find myself missing little "traditions" that we had. Curling up together watching the "Hallmark Channel" or getting excited about a certain moving coming out that we would watch as a family. Cooking for 2 is very difficult, and lonely.
I am also finding more time on my hands as structure has changed in ministry.
I don't like to be idol. It drives me bonkers!
For so long I have had our kids and ministry to keep my busy, so I guess this is a time of rediscovery of who I am without kids and ministry to keep me going. I guess it is kinda reverse for me to discover who I am and what is my purpose now. I hope you will tag along for the ride and hopefully I can share stories of where I have been and where I am now, and maybe it will help you along your journey of being real and honest with yourselves. And maybe help in your Spiritual life as well.
1 Peter 5:10
"And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen."
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